When someone asks me how many siblings I have, I don’t know how to respond. It’s a simple small-talk question, but my answer changes every time.
If I want to shock people, I say six. It’s technically the truth, but it’s misleading. I have one brother, four half-brothers, and one half-sister. I’ve only ever lived with three of these siblings, and two have since moved out. The other three live across the country, and I see them every few years.
I ponder the question: what defines a sibling?
For most of my life, I would tell people I have three siblings. That's how many I’ve lived with and thus felt close with, so it felt like the most accurate depiction of my family. Yet, the half-siblings I grew up with are just as related to me as the half-siblings I rarely see. This led me to question why I felt more connected to the siblings I lived with. Was it simply proximity, or was there something deeper at play?
Over time, though, I’ve come to realize family isn’t just about shared daily experiences—it’s also about the effort we put into maintaining our connections. Everyone is busy, but we make time for the things we consider a priority. Sometimes that means pushing off studying to play No Man’s Sky with my half-brother in California or to FaceTime my half-brother in Michigan.
I’ve also come to appreciate that each of my siblings have played a unique role in shaping who I am.
name redacted, my only full-blood sibling, is my biggest cheerleader. His support has taught me to love and accept myself.
name redacted and name redacted are the half-brothers I grew up with. name redacted’s chemistry background inspired my own scientific interests, while name redacted’s health struggles have shown me the importance of wellness.
name redacted and name redacted are the half-brothers I didn’t grow up with. name redacted’s unconventional career path taught me that success doesn’t need to follow a traditional route. name redacted’s ideological differences with my parents have shown me how to have respectful disagreements with others.
name redacted is my half-sister. Due to her rocky relationship with my parents, I’ve only met her sporadically. Her situation taught me to approach others with empathy, since family connections can be strained for reasons beyond my control.
My experiences with my siblings have shown me that family is less about proximity and more about the connections we choose to nurture. Each person, regardless of how often I see them, brings value to my life, whether that’s the memories we’ve shared or the values they’ve passed on. At Princeton, I want to embrace this perspective in the relationships I build with my classmates. Fostering connections with the intentionality I’ve learned from my family, I know each person has a unique viewpoint I can learn from.
And, when I am inevitably asked the ice-breaker question of “how many siblings do you have?” I now know how to respond. I have six siblings who have shaped me, even across time and distance.









